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Is it proper etiquette to expect dating expenses will be shared?

It is my opinion that it depends on the type of partner you are seeking. If you are a man seeking a traditional marriage in which the man earns a living while the woman is a housewife, the man should pay all dating expenses. However, if the man and woman desire an egalitarian relationship in which they are both to serve as equal partners in all areas of their relationship/marriage, then it is appropriate for them to go Dutch Treat on dates. Nevertheless, in some cases economic disadvantage may be a factor, in which case, the parties need to discuss how dating expenses should be shared. For instance, a girl with a good clerical job may meet a boy in medical school. They desire a traditional marriage, but until he becomes a doctor, she will have to pay for dating. However, it is understood that if they get married, and once he is in practice, it will be his job to be the breadwinner while she raises children and fulfills the role of homemaker.

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